Sophisticated and elegant black tie wedding // Jay + Amy

We have a treat for you today a sophisticated and elegant wedding set in the stunning location of Grade I listed Boreham House.  The grand venue is just outside London, offering couples a luxury and historic venue making the perfect setting for a black tie wedding!  Jay + Amy utilised the beauty and charm of the venue throughout their styling but also bought a fresh contemporary feel with a dove grey, white and silver colour palette – how dreamy! Here is their wedding day story…

Amy + Jay’s Love Story 

Jay was in a band and played a gig at a local venue when we were 17. I was in the crowd and we caught each other’s eye. I went to speak to Jay at the end of the gig and put my number in Jay’s phone! We have been together nearly 10 years.

We became engaged at the end of an ‘Irish adventure’! We started our holiday visiting Limerick and continued along the ‘Wild Atlantic Way’ to Donegal. Jay asked me to marry him outside Lough Eske in Dongal, a former castle owned by the O’Donnell clan. My dad’s side of the family are Irish and the O’Donnell surname comes from that region of Ireland. It was an incredibly thoughtful way to propose.

The Venue 

Boreham House is a stunning Grade I listed mansion in between Danbury and Springfield. The impressive building fitted in with the elegant and sophisticated theme that we both wanted. The architecture and scenery provided us with incredible photographs and we didn’t need to focus on much else.

The Dress + Accessories


Suzanne Neville ‘Rosabella’ bespoke dress from her Songbird collection. I found Suzanne Neville in ‘The Wedding Shop’ in Colchester. I absolutely loved how her gowns are cut – my dress was a sleek fishtail design with appliqué detail. I can honestly say that I didn’t have this shape in mind but it was my bridesmaid Rachel who saw it and said that I should try it on as she was adamant I had to show off my shape… as soon as we all saw it on it was definitely ‘the one’. I finished the look with ‘Romy’ by Jimmy Choo in ‘Platinum Ice’.

Hair + Make Up 

Bernice Cole did both my hair and make-up. I researched her work on Instagram years ago and knew that I would ask her to style me for the big day. I originally had my hair up in a chignon bun as I wanted a clean look, but as time went by I thought that I wanted to look more ‘myself’. As a young bride, having my hair down made me feel more confident and current.

The Maids

I had six bridesmaids and managed to find all of their dove grey dresses on ASOS. The girls wore nude court shoes and Swarovski pearl earrings.

The Suits 

Jay wore a bespoke black suit with a velvet jacket and the ushers wore black dinner suits from Anthony’s Formal Wear in Billericay. Jay and his brother wore a pin broach that displayed a photograph of both of their grandads.

The Photographer 

We choose David Michael Bradford as we love the emphasis that he puts on natural shots and when we saw the photos for the first time it was as though we were experiencing it all over again from a completely different perspective which was such a joy. Close members of the family pointed out how discreet he kept himself during the day, and how at ease he was when we was politely gathering us for the traditional shots that we wanted him to take. We highly commend him on his professionalism, efficiency, experience. His craft has undoubtedly influenced positively the memories of our special day.

The Transport

We had a host of classic cars for the day provided by EWC Wedding Cars a Rolls Royce Silver Cloud I in Ivory, a Ivory Daimler DS420 and a Red Classic MG which is owned by Jay’s dad.

The Florist 

Stock Florist created the flowers for the wedding. Roses are arguably the most elegant flower around which is why we chose them as the matched our theme. Our roses were white ‘Norma Jean’ roses and were chosen because they have a scent which is apparently rare in white wedding flowers. We used ruscus as foliage which gave a slight Mediterranean air to the look and subliminally added another colour to the scheme.

The Cake

It was well worth travelling to Potters Bar from Chelmsford to meet Andria Christophi at Magical Cakery to discuss ideas for our cake. The roses and the chandelier beading effect that she makes from icing attracted us to her style and we had three tiers. The top was a romantic red velvet saved for only the immediate family, the middle a scrummy chocolate cake and the bottom was a regal and quintessentially British Victoria Sandwich layer.

The Entertainment

Jay and I saw the band Jazzbomb on Valentines Day at the Hideaway in Streatham years ago. We said on that night that they are who we wanted to book for our wedding. Jazzbomb are a group of highly talented and experienced musicians who really know how to get the party started.

We also hired the ‘Oakwood String Quartet’ to play to our guests upon their arrival at Boreham House who provided canopes and bubbles. This set the scene perfectly.


How did you make your wedding more ethical?

My nan handmade little pots of jam as our favours. The fruit was also home-grown. We hoped to ‘spread the love’! We also used recycled jam jars to contain the jam!

The Advice 

Pinterest is your best friend.

Don’t be afraid to ask experienced suppliers silly questions if it puts your mind at rest as they have seen and heard it all before and are supportive in helping you to understand the mechanics of the day.

Keep a spreadsheet, update it regularly especially if your hosting a big wedding.

Spend money on good quality, experienced suppliers and they will be worth every penny. Save the extras for if you have a bit left over.

All the little details that you stress about will not matter. The words that you say to each other are the most important part. Savour, cherish and remember them.

Wow what great advice and what a beautiful wedding. The black tie theme worked so well against the historic charm of the venue. Thank you so much for sharing your story and photos from your day with us. Plus a huge thank you to David Michael Bradford for the candid shots of the day. Find more real weddings here.

Photography / David Michael Bradford

Venue / Boreham House  | Flowers / Stock Florist

Dress + Veil / Roseabella from Suzanne Neville |  Bride’s Shoes / Romy by Jimmy Choo

Groom’s Suit / Anthony’s Formal Wear | Bridesmaids /  ASOS

Hair + Make Up / Bernice Cole  | Cake / Magical Cakery

Transport / EWC Wedding Cars | Entertainment / Jazzbomb

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